Author Topic: Cutting ties with people/places/things that bring you down? (Read 1594 times)

dj9928 · « **on:** March 21, 2012, 12:55:24 PM »

In regards to the LOA how important is it to distant yourself from people or things that bring you down or take you out of the vortex so to speak?

As you will know I am unemployed but I had a phonecall last night from a former co worker, he was asked to go back when our company was bought over, I was not, but talking to him really brought me down last night as he was full of pity for me and thats something I am getting from a lot of people pity, I've received messages etc from a lot of former co workers over the months again full of pity for me, I am thinking it is time to get a new phone number as it really does bring me down talking to these guys, and also does bring out the green eyed monster in that I wasn't asked back, it probably does look rude distancing your self, but for me I was quite happy yesterday until I got that phone call and in regards to the LOA being happy is the most important thing.

Sneha · « **Reply #1 on:** March 21, 2012, 01:56:44 PM »

I agree.Abstain from such people.They might be wishing us well, but if the inherent feeling we get is of lack,worry and distress then it is all advisable to remain away from such situations.
I did the same , when i was unemployed for about 7-8 months.This included my cousins,extended family, ex coworkers and college mates.I sounded rude at that time to not mingle with them and listen to only pity words from them,but today it has made me stronger.I know my purpose of life is happiness and not worrying.I still stumble at times and let others actions affect me, but atleast now i know that it is wrong .
Best of LOA to you.
Don't worry, practice EFT and act as if u have ur dream job.I have done this and been successful at it, hence i know

hellokiki · « **Reply #2 on:** March 21, 2012, 02:48:30 PM »

I agree to cut ties with those who make you feel negative. You don't have to cut ties with them forever. You can start connecting with them again when whatever they say/do will not affect you! I used to feel unhappy/negative after meeting up with this friend of mine because she is a very negative person. Now I have started to learn and know more about LOA, I would reduce my interactions with her until I feel I am all positive and won't be affected by her negativity.

Love is here · « **Reply #3 on:** March 22, 2012, 09:27:52 PM »

dj9928, First let me say I love your posts cause it feels like you are reading my mind and yes change your number if you must. I had to cut ties with many people in order to move ahead in my spiritual growth, stay sane and not constantly be reminded of negative things of the past or even present. Im confident that GOD will attract like minded people to me in the near future.

adam425 · « **Reply #4 on:** March 22, 2012, 10:21:57 PM »

DJ you are correct. Your environment that you are surrounded in has a huge effect on you, how you think, and how you act. If you are surrounded by people who always are downers, and expect the worse to happen, most likely you are, or will start to think the same way. If your family raised you to think money is hard to come by, you will grow up thinking that.

A prime example of what I am talking about is this. I am Canadian, if I move over to England for a year or so and then come back to Canada, I will be talking with the English accent. All because I was surrounded in my environment with people that talked with that accent. So it changed my accent without me really knowing. All because it was in my environment.

So by cutting ties, or just putting up boundries you can change that for yourself. I had to do it with friends that I have been friends with for years. I just stopped calling them, didn't go to the parties anymore or anything. Because all they did was party, and do whatever else. I wanted to make something of myself, so I had to separate myself from the way they thought. I still see them once every few months, but their way of thinking and acting doesn't have an effect on me anymore.

It is a hard thing to do, but you need to take care of yourself first. And if being happy means communicating less with those that lower your vibration. Then you know what you need to do.

Sending energy your way

chrissy8907 · « **Reply #5 on:** March 22, 2012, 11:47:04 PM »

When I began using LOA I cut all ties from people who brought me down or who weren't a positive person in my life. It was the best thing I ever did. They thought I was mean but it was what I had to do for me!!! It isn't about anyone else anymore but you!! I have been in a similar situation and it's toxic to your well being! You will get another job you will let go of these people who bring you down and you will be happy. Let go of them and I promise you will feel and be so much better

Marianna9351 · « **Reply #6 on:** March 23, 2012, 06:21:14 AM »

IMO it is a must to eliminate negative people from your life. I told a jerk at my work to leave me alone and now I feel more peaceful at my job. Positive energy is a must with the LOA, so it is indeed best to boot negative people.

JustForToday · « **Reply #7 on:** March 23, 2012, 06:57:32 AM »

I AGREE WITH ALL ABOVE!!!!

cutt those ties, they will have an effect on you otherwise,
feed your brain with positive stuff, like being on here.....
speak only about the good things in your life and surround yourself with like minded people:)
i even cut the ties from my father cause he wasnt good for me

edited:
keep affirming that you only attract positive people into your life and feel the happiness already....
affirm--- everywhere i go i am surrounded by love
i am positivity

you are doing great david, proud of you and cant wait for your succes and it will come!!! you just have to feel the happiness that it comes to you!

emilylb · « **Reply #8 on:** March 25, 2012, 02:21:43 AM »

I agree completely! Cut ties for sure! Last summer I cut a friend out of my life that was just NOT good for me at all. Being around her put me in a bad mood and she always put me down and had such a negative vibe about her. After that things started going really great for me, and then this fall she came back into my life and everything went downhill again. Negative people can have SUCH an impact on your life. She cut up my ex (who I am now trying to get back with) and really just influenced my life is the worst way.

dj9928 · « **Reply #9 on:** March 25, 2012, 02:31:37 PM »

Thanks guys, So it seems cutting ties is the way to go. Even when I was working these guys where always so negative and the office politics really got to me, so i am grateful to be free from these people and start a new chapter in my life.

dj9928 · « **Reply #10 on:** March 25, 2012, 02:32:24 PM »

Quote from: eightieschick on March 22, 2012, 09:27:52 PM

dj9928, First let me say I love your posts cause it feels like you are reading my mind and yes change your number if you must. I had to cut ties with many people in order to move ahead in my spiritual growth, stay sane and not constantly be reminded of negative things of the past or even present. Im confident that GOD will attract like minded people to me in the near future.

Thanks for that.

Sneha · « **Reply #11 on:** March 25, 2012, 10:26:22 PM »

But make you remain aloof \ indifferent and not let any of there action affect me.This is better than thinking in the head "I have tocut ties with him\her\them"...(cos this is some what negative).

Lots of love and Best of LOA to everyone

simplyjess · « **Reply #12 on:** March 31, 2012, 04:10:24 AM »

What happens if you live with the negative people...how do you cut ties with them? I am really frustrated right now because all along I wanted my mom to be my cheerleader and support me in manifesting my guy back. We always talk about things but I'm starting to wonder whether I should continue doing so... Every time I ask her whether she believes I can do it, she goes all wishy-washy and says things like "Why don't you try focusing on yourself first?"

Now I'm not saying that what she says is wrong (I know I need to focus on myself first)...really upset because it feels as if she acts like she supports me but deep inside she doubts (and hence her trying to "dodge" my question). I even told her how everyone on here are very supportive, so why can't she give me a little "boost"? She totally missed the point and said, "Well, I'm not a forum member." The point wasn't even about being a member or not; it's about having faith and reassuring others when they need it...I'm scared that her doubtful, negative energy is "rubbing off" on me; it's like living in a negative energy field.

What are your thoughts and advice? =/

JustForToday · « **Reply #13 on:** March 31, 2012, 04:17:21 AM »

jessy, i would simple stop talking with her about your intends and loa, it might be confusing.... you have us and tell her all is well, i look after myself. since she is your mum and really connected with you and conerned too, its not the best to talk to her about such things.

we are your loa family and keep distant from talking to her about stuff like that. she is too much into you because of being your mum....

just dont let you distract, you are on the right path. come here and we will give a BIG BIG BOOST