Choosing vs Letting Universe choose for you

[Peace]

I read a few posts around and I am not sure whether I understood one thing properly:
does LOA say that when you ask for something (or someone) you have to be as vague and general as possible in order to increase the probability of receiving it?

I noticed that it is suggested to ask for "the perfect relationship" for example by listing the qualities that a potential soulmate may have; is this in opposition with asking for a specific person you already know (a friend, a crush, a celebrity, etc.)?

Is it wrong or right to ask something like...
"I want my relationship with [name] to get better each day"
or
"I imagine that my friend [name] will become my future girlfriend and we'll lead a happy life together and  might even get married!"
?

[Galia]

Peace, hi again :-)

Well, the perfect case is when you ask for a "general" soulmate... and I recommend you reading this : http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/law-of-attraction-in-action/relationship/how-to-attract-a-perfect-relationship-using-law-of-attraction/


We meet people all the time, some of them we like, and then fall in love... unfortunately those people are not always "the perfect match" even if 80% it's matching....we do not know the future, we do not know how this specific person will change and grow, so we don't know if we'll be continuously happy with her/him...

The Universe/God has the perfect one for us and we'll be in a relationship with that person only if we stay open on what the Universe/God sends us... and somehow you have to let the Universe/God choose for you because It knows better what will come in the future...

For some people in the forum here it's their ex boyfriend/girlfriend that matches perfectly (at least they believe so)  so they try to get him/her back....and aim a specific person - but there's no guarantee that it's really "the one"....and it's always better to ask a soulmate rather than a specific person because surprisingly you may meet another girl from nowhere or some that you already know who is 100% matching and not only 80%.

I hope you understand what I mean...

You can always try to get your specific girl but maybe the Universe has better for you, so that's why we recommend to stay more general in the research.

Your affirmations must be very specific and clear and short. The examples you gave here in your post, are too "may be" and too "I would like"....You have to affirm the situation as it already takes place  NOW and not maybe some day...

"I am now in the perfect relationship with the perfect partner for me"
"I radiate love and I recieve love constantly"
"I'm now happily married with the perfect partner for me"   etc etc....

Hope that clarify the things a bit...

Peace and joy!

[Success Seeker]

: ) Thanks Galia I could not have read this at a better time. Still going thru' aftereffects of a  messy breakup after a relationship of 5 years. i have now managed to forgive her but not yet let go of her completely. What you wish for may not always be the best for you. You clarified my mind. God bless you and Happy new year!

[Peace]

Thank you for your explanation Galia.

Of course, I know what you mean, though I guess my question has little to do with Law of Attraction by itself, and more with how to formulate our personal priorities and beliefs - and as a consequence - what exactly we wish.

I will write more nevertheless, hoping that it can be some food for thought and hoping that it can help me affirm my own wish with more conviction and positiveness!

I don't know whether it's an advantage or not, but the strength of my wish (even before I discovered LOA) always depends on how many "pro" and how many "contra" I can find for what I want - and what you just said represents a "contra" against my wish and I need to defend it. When there's a "contra" that I cannot refute, I feel less optimistic about receiving what I wish...

One of the most important reasons (as I laid out also in my previous post: http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/law-of-attraction-for-relationship/bringing-love-into-an-existing-friendship/ ) is that I believe that people can change, and our relationship with them, can also change. Many people say that it's wrong to hope that someone will change, but I beg to differ.
---> In this light, I believe that the Universe/God can make anyone become the "perfect partner" for us. How that happens? We could change, they could change, many things will happen until the two people converge to the "100% perfect" relationship.

A second reason is similar to what I think happens when we start letting a little bit of doubt get inside of us. When we think "the Universe/God might have someone better for us out there" it is very similar to thinking "the world is plenty of fish - why focus on one?". Don't you think that when we think something like that we might actually drive away what we had been slowly attracting towards us with hard work?
Whatever we think will become true - so if we think that "someone else might be better" or that "the Universe/God knows better who is our perfect partner"... that will also come true!

This is a "grass-is-greener"-attitude which, in my opinion, can even make an existing relationship deteriorate! (EXAMPLE: I think "oh, this girl is not even returning my calls anymore... so probably Universe/God has someone better for me"; in reality, she might have been in trouble or really have no money to call back and gets sad because I move on; and she moves on as well, making my pessimistic thoughts come true etc. )
So I prefer not to think that.

A third reason is that I (and I guess many other people) don't want a "perfect" partner, but simply want to add some romance or make an existing friendship/relationship improve.  This is because we already know we love this person very much and don't care whether there is one or 100 other better fish out there.

Do you follow/acknowledge my reasoning?

Thanks, and a Happy New Year

[Galia]

Hello Peace,

I'll quote each one of your questions and I will reply what I think about it :


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I don't know whether it's an advantage or not, but the strength of my wish (even before I discovered LOA) always depends on how many "pro" and how many "contra" I can find for what I want - and what you just said represents a "contra" against my wish and I need to defend it. When there's a "contra" that I cannot refute, I feel less optimistic about receiving what I wish...

So here, about every wish you have, you are trying to see how reasonable, achievable and feasable your wish is, am I  getting right your point?
Well if it's that, so you have to understand that Law of Attraction doesn't work that way and actually it's the total opposit of the Law of Attraction where you ask, then you believe and so you receive...Or here, you have no faith, only reason....



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I believe that people can change, and our relationship with them, can also change. Many people say that it's wrong to hope that someone will change, but I beg to differ.
---> In this light, I believe that the Universe/God can make anyone become the "perfect partner" for us. How that happens? We could change, they could change, many things will happen until the two people converge to the "100% perfect" relationship.Actually, people change permanently because of the everyday life experiences they have - difficulties, success, pain, love... so we are in constant move, all of us... and our relationships with the people change with the same rhythm - although there're people with whom we share more that with others - that's because of the vibrations we send to the Universe, so we take back the same vibrations...
But in life you can't force another person to fall in love with you - either it matches, either it doesn't. During one moment 2 people can match perfectly and then something happens, 1 of them changes in other direction, that person grows and so they don't have the same interests in this relationship, so the 2 people want 2 different things and they separate....



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A second reason is similar to what I think happens when we start letting a little bit of doubt get inside of us. When we think "the Universe/God might have someone better for us out there" it is very similar to thinking "the world is plenty of fish - why focus on one?". Don't you think that when we think something like that we might actually drive away what we had been slowly attracting towards us with hard work?
Whatever we think will become true - so if we think that "someone else might be better" or that "the Universe/God knows better who is our perfect partner"... that will also come true!

This is a "grass-is-greener"-attitude which, in my opinion, can even make an existing relationship deteriorate! (EXAMPLE: I think "oh, this girl is not even returning my calls anymore... so probably Universe/God has someone better for me"; in reality, she might have been in trouble or really have no money to call back and gets sad because I move on; and she moves on as well, making my pessimistic thoughts come true etc. )
So I prefer not to think that. This here is the perfect picture of a doubtfull mind. And it is something I recommended to avoid!
Staying "open" on the Universe's choice for us is not equal with "having doubts". It's a question of "letting go" and being confident, and having faith that what you'll get is the perfect thing for you. Of course you will attract more of negativity and unhappy events if you have this kind of thinking...
Insisting on what you want , in this case it's a specific girl, you are pretending knowing better than the Creator what is the best for you...?
And letting the Universe choose for you, is a behaviour of humility and it brings peace in mind, true faith and so very quick manifestation in the material world...
I never said that the world is plenty of fish and so you stop focusing on one - there's one fish which was chosen for you....to let it come is your choice - you choose what to attract. One fish or many.
Of course when you stay open, you can receive as well what you initially asked for..!


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A third reason is that I (and I guess many other people) don't want a "perfect" partner, but simply want to add some romance or make an existing friendship/relationship improve.Law of attraction is not a black magic. You can't manipulate people with it and you can't make someone to love you....That's a simple fact.
You attract what you have inside of you. If the other person has the same vibrations, so she will come to you naturally. It's a question of vibrations. So if you want your relationship to improve,then send love , peace and acceptance all around you and it will come back to you...Choose affirmations like:

"my relationship with ...... improves everyday more and more"

"I send love to ...... everyday"

"I radiate love to every person in my life".....

That's from me for the moment.

Hope that helps...

Love and peace

[Peace]

Well if it's that, so you have to understand that Law of Attraction doesn't work that way and actually it's the total opposit of the Law of Attraction where you ask, then you believe and so you receive...Or here, you have no faith, only reason....

Understood OK!

But in life you can't force another person to fall in love with you - either it matches, either it doesn't. During one moment 2 people can match perfectly and then something happens, 1 of them changes in other direction, that person grows and so they don't have the same interests in this relationship, so the 2 people want 2 different things and they separate....

Yes, this is what I was saying as well. What I believe LOA can do (and I feel it has done so far) is it can help the two people at least understand what is necessary to get onto the same "wavelength" and same vibrations.

Insisting on what you want , in this case it's a specific girl, you are pretending knowing better than the Creator what is the best for you...? And letting the Universe choose for you, is a behaviour of humility and it brings peace in mind, true faith and so very quick manifestation in the material world...

I am not sure whether you understood what I am saying.  I am not saying "I know better than the Creator/Universe!". I said that in the moment when I think (or say) "The Universe knows better than me who is right for me." I could be actually radiating this message:"There is someone out there who is perfect for me, and I don't know who it might be." Wouldn't I be implicitly also radiating this message: "The specific person I currently like might not be the right person, but someone else." And if I radiate such message, wouldn't I receive exactly that?

I have no doubts on what the Universe/Creator/God knows and can give us, but my question is how do we know which is the right way to formulatte our wishes?

We base most of our wishes on cultural ideas. I assume most of the people on this forum are from the Western world, so we are culturally influenced to believe that there "one perfect partner", but for some cultures there are seven perfect partners, for some cultures the whole world is a partner, for some people it is perfect to have sex every night with a different woman. The film "The Secret" says that you will get whatever you will ask for.

My question was simply that if we ask for a general "perfect partner" we might radiate the message that the specific girl we insist on may not be the perfect partner.

I hope I was clearer now 

Law of attraction is not a black magic. You can't manipulate people with it and you can't make someone to love you....That's a simple fact.
You attract what you have inside of you. If the other person has the same vibrations, so she will come to you naturally. It's a question of vibrations.

I have no doubts about this. People with same vibrations come together even when they don't use LOA  What I believe LOA can do is also attract change.

Otherwise, how can you explain that sometimes two enemies transform into friends? And what transforms two completely different people into lovers?

So if you want your relationship to improve,then send love , peace and acceptance all around you
and it will come back to you...Choose affirmations like:

"my relationship with ...... improves everyday more and more"

"I send love to ...... everyday"

"I radiate love to every person in my life".....

That's from me for the moment.

Hope that helps...

Love and peace

I'll try! Thanks a lot Galia!

[EasySuccess]

I have a question regarding this connected with finances and job. I'm not trying to attract any specific company or any specific job. I just wanna attract more freedom in personal and financial way. So, I'm attracting work where I will do what I like, have a lot of freedom, work with only positive people, earn a lot of money... I'm not naming any job or company, because I don't see anything similar around me. Maybe I will start some kind of business, who knows
I let the universe chose for me, is that OK?

[Galia]

Peace,

what you are radiating as a message , that's what you'll receive...  I can't say this otherwise  :-)
Pay attention on your emotions because the emotions are emitting vibrations and that's what will accelerate your manifestation.

I recommand those affirmations daily : 


" love comes to me without any effort"
"I have a clear idea of what I want in a relationship"
“I attract a loving relationship in my life"
"I give and I receive love"
"I am a filled up radiant being of light and love"
"I deserve love"
"I believe now that the relationships can be joyful and funny"
"I am open to the others, I give and I receive love"
"Whereas my love for myself increases, it goes the same for my love for (........)"
"I project love"

The right way of formulating affirmations is to make them short and positive - so you never make an affirmation with something negative inside.

Do whatever you feel will be right. If you think you can be happy with this girl and she seems attracted by you, then go with your  demand for this specific woman.

Love and peace!
 

[Galia]

Hello EasySuccess!

I do not recommend you staying so general about a job.

I did that before and it brought absolutelly nothing to me...

From my personal experience I would advice you to do this  but for a job : http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/law-of-attraction-in-action/relationship/how-to-attract-a-perfect-relationship-using-law-of-attraction/

This is the basic thing we do to make things clear and so be clear on our demand to the Universe. This list of "'things you don't want" and then "things you want", will generate emotions while writing it and so it will raise quickly your vibrations. Know it is important to write everything on a paper - this is not some useless exercice - this will make work all sides of your brain and so emotions will be created.
This is exercice used by professional life coaches and psychologists!

When you don't have a clear purpose, you'll send mixed vibrations.

For me, I started by doing  tests on my professional skills with a specialist in human ressources - this helped me at least to know what kind of profession suits me perfectly and so be very clear on my desire...

Hope that helps.
Joy and peace to you!

[EasySuccess]

If I write down what I  don't want from my job, wouldn't that be focusing my attention on the negative part of situation? Or that's not the case? Explain this a little better, please.

[Galia]

Three Steps to Attracting More Satisfying Relationships
By Rebecca Hanson

© 2003-2008 All rights reserved.
Please ask permission to reproduce: rebecca@lawofattractiontrainingcenter.com

As long as the Law of Attraction has only the 'DON'T want' script,
it is restricted to orchestrating that script over and over.
We must give the Law of Attraction some NEW MATERIAL to work with.

What do you really want in your relationships?  Security? Affection? Loyalty? Companionship? Communication? What?
Do you wonder why you keep attracting certain types of people into your life?
Are you tired of feeling disappointed in 'love?
Have you ever been 'blind-sided' by someone you thought was a friend?
Do you feel desperate to find that special person you can live with forever?

Here are three steps that can help you in attracting more satisfying relationships:

1. Make a thorough list of all the characteristics or scenarios of your past relationships that you DON'T WANT to experience again. You can just take a fresh sheet of paper and draw a large 'T' on it.
Label the left hand column: 'I Don't want' and the right-hand column, 'I Do Want'
Ask your Inner Self to remind you of past events that you do NOT want repeated.
Write a few words about each event that express the essence of that event. For example:
 
Step 2--Examine each item on the 'I DON'T want ..." side and ask yourself this question: "If I don't want this, what DO I want?" Your list will look something like this:
 
One major reason why we keep attracting the same unsatisfactory relationships is because we fail to use the contrast contained in those negative events to get clear about what we DO want.

Step 3--Write a Script about how you DO want your relationships to be:
As long as the Law of Attraction has only the 'DON'T want' Script, it is restricted to orchestrating that Script over and over. We must give the Law of Attraction some NEW MATERIAL to work with.


Scripting accesses all four parts of the brain.

The left brain which deals with words and logic
The right brain which understands patterns and symbols
The mid-brain which experiences emotions
The brain stem which registers physical stimulation

When we write a Script, starting with a phrase such as:  "If I had my way...", and use our imagination about that which feels good to us, we are accessing our right and mid-brain. A thought or feeling comes and we translate it into words (using the left brain) that symbolize the thought or feeling (right brain again). Writing the Script engages the body, which registers in the brain stem.
When all four parts of the brain are engaged, a powerful message is delivered to the Universe.
I like to end my Scripts with the phrase, "And do this in ways that are for my highest good and the highest good of everyone involved." This is a phrase that helps me let go of 'HOW" this will all happen, and allows the Law of Attraction to bring it about in the very best possible way.

Remember, the Law of Attraction brings us precisely what we vibrate. So if we want to experience relationships that are more satisfying, then we must change our dominant vibration to match the experiences we WANT to have.
 

[EasySuccess]

I'll try it. Thank you Galia

Maybe I'm boring with this, but what do I do after I write this. Do I leave it somewhere or read it everyday?

[Sneha Kulkarni]

hi
just adding up to what galina said:) for all to work just let go your worries an anxiety be like child just surrender your self to the universe
sneha

[Galia]

Easy Succes,

you make your list and that will clear up the things in your head so subconsciously you won't send mixed signals to the Universe... You make your list once and after you can go with your visualization and affirmations daily...

Peace and love!