Can I use LOA to make someone go away? (please help)

[Love is here]

Lately ive been running into my ex, an ex who use to stalk me some years back (even had a temporary order of protection against him at the time). I moved on and thought he did to an extent (when I would run into him maybe once a year, he'd still tell me he loves me but he had stopped stalking me) but recently ive been running into him more often than I should. Its not even at places where he could find out like my current employment but random days and times and at random places like the train for instance just happening to get on there for a ride. Today I saw him and the way he acted alerted me that he might start this up again. Its so frustrating because I dont want to have to keep paying the price for briefly dating some lunatic years ago. This time id rather avoid all the drama and fear that was my life for 2 years straight after I dated him.

I know with LOA you have to visualize what you want and not what you dont so how can I visualize him going away since that is what I dont want? Any advice is greatly appreciated. I dont want to keep attacting him since this is all im thinking about now.

[tereza]

I think what would help would be to not give anymore attention to him. So if you see him again, don't write about it and don't call anyone to talk about it (well unless you have to call the police, then definitely do that). Also, maybe try visualizing a peaceful day and focus on what you would like to happen and who you would really like to see instead?

I don't know, maybe someone else has experience with this?

[Love is here]

He is kinda always in the back of my mind and its true when I have had conversations about him to a friend of mine, I usually end up seeing him soon after that but there were also times I hadnt thought about him at all and still ran into him. Im thinking of the secret movie where the gay guy's tormenters all ended up either leaving him alone or going away in some fashion. Im wondering if I should only concentrate on what I do want and who I do want to see or would visualizing my ex with a suitcase and moving away and wishing him well on his journey do any good?

[Love is here]

I know only one person replied (which is understandable because this is a serious subject and some might not want to touch this one or know how to go about it) but wanted to update what has happened which was very positive and healing for me. Like I said this was a guy that I briefly dated years ago and who stalked me off and on for a few years after that and seeing him again out the blue a handful of times at random places did freak me out especially since when he saw me he was acting like he still had feelings for me and that nothing had happened.

So last night I saw him on the train once again. It was at a random time like the last time not anytime where he could even possibly know I would be on there. He saw me and sat across from me and tried to speak to me. I immediately get up and move to a seat that was across from the officer I saw on the train. My ex saw that and turned around and said he knows we have had some problems in the past but we can still speak to eachother when we see eachother right and I just glared at him without blinking and I nodded to the officer so he could make sure to keep his eye on the situation and he was. So anyways then my ex got up and sat not next to me but moved near me again and said he missed me and the same ol rhetoric. I got up cause my stop was coming up and this time when he said I miss you again and have a nice day, something rose up in me and I knew I had to confront him. I turned around and walked towards him and said I dont ever want you saying anything to me ever again whether good or bad, I dont want to hear I miss you, I dont want to hear that I look nice, I dont even want to hear a hello from you. He said "is it that bad"? I said it was that bad when you harassed me all those years and reminded him of his felony that he already has and told him that if he even says so much as a hello to me, I will get him thrown in jail and this time he will serve a long time considering his prior history. I told him I already talked to an officer about the last time I saw him and that if he starts this up again, consider his life and freedom to be over. He looked so humiliated and shocked and I ended it with "and if you follow me when I get off this stop, Ill call the police so fast, you wont even have time to blink, I DONT WANT YOU" and he had tears in his eyes and looked shocked I said that and he said okay you have my word not even a hello.

I truly believe he got it this time. He is a guy that has always had an inability to let go and is extremely desperate. I dont think he even got it or admitted to himself that what he did all those years really was stalking. I saw in his face last night that he finally got it. When I wrote about him the first time on here as much as I didnt ever want to see him again, I still couldnt help but imagine seeing him again and telling him off to take my power back pretty much exactly the way it happened last night so I knew I attracted him and I actually think the reason Ive been running into him lately was for that to happen, to take my power back cause for so long I felt victimized and never fully healed from that situation. I also think it needed to happen for him to finally get it and not be in denial about who he had become. I have no fear of him anymore. Of course I will never trust being around him nor ever want to be alone with him or put myself in that situation and still never want to see him again but I know in my heart now even if I do, he is of no threat to me. He's also someone that cares alot about appearances and what people think about him and seeing me put it all out there with other people watching on the train made him die a little inside and even a bit scared of me. He wont be bothering me anymore.

[Detached&Allowing]

Your fear is creating his reappearance. The more fearful you become the more you will see him.  The next time you see him, say to yourself over and over "I forgive him, I forgive him, I forgive him"

I am also going to suggest that you listen to the following each night before bed.  Make sure the right headphone is over/in the right ear etc.

Give yourself about a week and let me know how you feel.  Much love and the very best of LOA to you!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1ZDVqyvGT4&list=FLnBDT1ODm-LCip0Iym6RogQ&index=6&feature=plpp_video

[Love is here]

Thank you schednerson22, I will try that video. Ive already started doing ho'oponopono as well thanks to reading about it somewhere on this forum and its already started helping. I agree that my fear has made me see him over and over but the last time, I feel like I really needed to so that I could say what ive wanted to say for years and take my power back. Certainly Ive tried in the past saying what I said to him the other night but when its been in public, he'd turn it around on me and made me look like the crazy one cause he's a master manipulator and excellent liar but I caught him so off guard this time and he truly looked shocked. There was more that I said that I didnt want to post here but when I brought it up to him in front of everyone on that train, he didnt deny it nor try to manipulate his way out of it like he usually would in the past since people were around. He was simply humiliated but could tell he knew he deserved that. I do forgive him. I honestly dont wish bad on him, ive just wanted him to go on with his life and not be so fixated on me and I truly do think he realizes now the reality of the situation and that I will never come back to him. If he continues to delude himself then thats on him but I am no longer in fear of him.

[Love is here]

feedback, I dont know who you are but your message sounds really suspect.  Maybe im just being paranoid but I hope your not him cause no one would write something like that but him. That was very disrespectful to say you would punch someone in the face. I dont want to be an acquaintance with someone who harassed me and stalked me off and on for years and while we were together (which was very brief) he became very obsessive and ultimately abusive. Thats why I broke it off. His behavior was NOT normal even for a man totally in love and any smart woman would not ever entertain the thought of being an acquaintance with someone with that track record and for you to talk about punching someone in the face frankly scares me and alerts me that you could be him. Im gonna contact the moderator.

[truelove]

Umm, feedback, I find your response very aggressive. I have noticed that you sort out this thread, from what you wrote in the shout column and it makes me think that you have been in the situation of this guy. or that you ARE the guy...

We all have the right to say no to any relationship that we don't think is for our best interests.. Which is why I am of the mind when we want someone back, that we say "this person or someone better for me". Trying to get one specific person back could be detrimental to ourselves or them- if you are not doing it for the highest good of all involved.

If a person does not want you near them and in fact responds in this way, it is your vibe they are responding to. SOmething in them is warning them to stay away. If you are in this situation, the most loving thing you can do for the person is respect their wishes.

[Love is here]

I got word that feedback was just a random troll not my ex. No worries