Author Topic: Can't stop attracting negative and mean people...help!! :( (Read 6690 times)

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #90 on:** March 24, 2012, 04:04:13 AM »

Sage, they are made of sage. LOL!!

It cleans your space of negative energies. I used it too, I actually just did this about 3 weeks ago and accidentally hit the wall and have an actual smudge mark on it. LOL!! You really just need to get the smoke all around and in all the corners of your space whether it's your bedroom or a different room in your house. When I cleanse my home I do all the rooms, I just feel like as long as I am at it I might as well do the whole thing!

Lise, you crack me up with the bed thing! Thanks for the giggle.

2thetop · « **Reply #91 on:** March 24, 2012, 04:58:02 AM »

so ive skimmed over this thread and its preeeeeeeeeeetty interesting.

its been a while so let see if i go about this the right way.

gogetter......nobody here is being mean. i know mariposa can be straight forward, but shes not mean, and not as straight forward as im about to be.

its all your fault and it will all continue as long as you keep the views and beliefs you have of a)yourself b)your surrounding world c) your family and other humans.

you might want to sit back and ask what lessons you can be learning from all these interactions. what could you have done different to change those interactions. and i know theres things you could have. let me pause right here. yes. i know youre upset at me saying this. well, let me be straight forward one more time. get over it. sound rude? sound mean? its not. what it is, is the best advice you can ever take. get over it. let it roll off your shoulders and just get over it all. so you have to jump through hoops to get extra money. seems to me you are focused on having to do that and thinking that this money is owed to you. its not. so be grateful that you even get the money.

in everything you have wrote. you blame everyone else. let me tell you from experience, its not their fault. non of it. you can read a million and one books. that doesnt mean a thing. you arent applying those books. thats apparent by the fact you continue to think youre surrounded by bad people. when in fact, it seems to me youre being surround by lessons that you refuse to acknowledge.

if you did get this far with out getting mad i give you credit. maybe youre learning something after all. when you fully understand that it is you and only you responsible for everything in yoru world, you will fully grasp the ability you have to keep it from being bad. theres a lesson to learn in everything. its up to you to learn it.

i wish you luck on your journey. how long and hard it is will be up to you.

p.s. im not saying that bad things dont happen. cuz they will. however, if you can find a way to accept what is going on, learn from it, and be appreciative of the lesson, those bad things arent always as bad as you think initially.

truelove · « **Reply #92 on:** March 24, 2012, 05:43:13 AM »

Quote from: tereza on March 24, 2012, 03:43:43 AM

Nah, though that does sound like a good book. The book I read was really hokey and sort of related to feng shui. I remember the author recommended beating your bed with a stick and then letting the air clear for 7 hours or something. Then there was some really weird chapters about eating...

Perhaps it's a good thing I can't remember the title.

'Clear Your Clutter' by Karen Kingston???

It's such a great little book!! I think seeing as so many of us have mentioned cleaning and clearing here (including myself)
Sadly, I have noticed that absolutely NONE of my responses have gotten the reply I asked for. I have suggested several changes and for Gogetter to come back and talk to us after she has tried them out

But instead of blaming anyone- I ask myself, how am I not listening to myself at the moment?? How am I feeling disconnected. Then I sit until I find where I can help myself more then I act on it..
So today, I realise that I too need to clear my clutter too, so YAYA!! Thanks everyone for helping me realise it!

We have a verge side pick up coming up too so it is the perfect time to get rid of junk (synchronisity). Also in the book it talks about how all things are energy (of course) and that how getting rid of unwanted things allows for new things to come in.. Yeah maybe a thread about this could be great in helping manifestations!!

Gogetter, even though I feel you are not going to listen to me, I urge that you go and do the same.. as I have said before. BUt if you don't respond to me this time I feel it is in my own best interests to just wish you all the best and leave this topic to others..

gogetter · « **Reply #93 on:** March 24, 2012, 06:44:50 AM »

mariposa and 2thetop...people who have no concept of compassion or caring about the hurt feelings of someone else. i do not respond to people using the ignorant and unfeeling expression "get over it."
you are both so MEAN you completely have forgotten what the word MEAN even means.
mariposa, i told you before and will tell you again...leave me alone! This is harrassment now. Take your giggling cruelty elsewhere.
and 2thetop please restrain yourself from going any further to the bottom. it doesn't get much crueler than "its all your fault.
why do people like you do this crap to people like me?
i am thankful for the kind ones out there and that is why i am still here, hanging on.
thank goodness for all the private messages i keep getting advising me not to listen or buy into the bullying from mariposa and i am sure 2thetop is her partner in cruelty crime.
either be nice to me, soothe me, lift me up with light and love or shut the hell up.

truelove · « **Reply #94 on:** March 24, 2012, 06:53:22 AM »

I really don't understand why you never respond to me...

tereza · « **Reply #95 on:** March 24, 2012, 07:03:13 AM »

Quote from: truelove on March 24, 2012, 05:43:13 AM

'Clear Your Clutter' by Karen Kingston???

Yes!!!! That's it! I read the older version with the different cover. Parts of it was a little weird for me, but everything else...woo! I cleaned out years of junk and it took me about a week and I felt so good afterwards.

Quote from: gogetter on March 24, 2012, 06:44:50 AM

it doesn't get much crueler than "its all your fault.
why do people like you do this crap to people like me?

You've got pages of responses and tons of private messages. There are members on this forum with threads with only 1 response and even more threads with 0 responses. That should be a sign to you that people care about you and that you are capable of attracting what it is that you need.

As for it being all your fault...eh. It's an ugly thought to think that the horrible stuff you're going through is something you're responsible for. BUT at the same time, it's an empowering thought because if you created it, you can also create a different and better situation. It means you're in control.

If you haven't already, check out Michael Losier's book on the Law of Attraction. There's a free pdf out there, so you don't have to spend money on it. In the book, there's a section that talks about contrast. Do the exercise suggested in there. Write out the bad things and then write out what you want to happen instead. Then towards the end of the book, they suggest exercises on how to eliminate doubt. Do those also. You may not see changes right away, but keep searching for the positive and you will see more of it.

truelove · « **Reply #96 on:** March 24, 2012, 07:39:13 AM »

Yes, the food stuff was strange, but I loved most of it.

And when I read it the first time I cleared out so much junk and I felt lighter and clearer in my head. Time to do that again I think.. things are changing for me and I want my home to reflect who I am now and who I am becoming!!

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #97 on:** March 24, 2012, 03:54:33 PM »

How is it that we are trying to help you and it has been acknowledged but you don't see that?

It's so sad for you. We are telling you the truth and you once again ignore it.

It's not as if we are the ONLY ones telling you the exact same thing.

But you continue to blame us, call us names and blame us for your problems!!

Ginny · « **Reply #98 on:** March 24, 2012, 04:55:54 PM »

I have an idea:

gogetter, you asked how you can stop attracting all this negativity and meanness. And you point out that, when you encounter meanness from other people, it hurts you, and you find it hard to pull yourself out of that.

Okay - but if you believe in LOA, you MUST believe that this is originating with you. You attract your reality. The problem then is how do you attract something different, when you are confronted with things that hurt you every day?

Think of it this way: your life is like a story, and you are the narrator. So far the story has had a lot of unhappiness. So, from your point of view as story teller, maybe it doesn't make sense for the plot to suddenly change by 180 degrees. Maybe you want this, but your inner sense of 'logic' (what we sometimes call the ego) tells you it isn't possible, because it would be too great a leap. Sort of like a story where the protagonist has been horribly maimed in a car accident, but then suddenly they wake up one morning completely healthy and able to run marathons. Some people could believe that sort of story and run with it (no pun intended

), but others would find that their ego sqwaks too much and won't let them manifest that.

So here's what you do: find something you CAN believe in. Take small steps toward your goal. So, your current perception is that nearly everyone is horrible to you, for no reason whatsoever. But you must believe that it is possible that some nice kind people exist. So believe that you will meet one or two of those, and look out for them. And then appreciate them when you find them. Don't start worrying that they will suddenly become 'mean'. Just look for small improvements. And then, over time, the small improvements will start to accumulate - and you will be able to imagine a better life in all ways.

Just start with what you can believe, no matter how small, and build up from there. When a limiting thought starts to surface ('my parents are cruel', 'I can't get a job', whatever it is), just put it on hold temporarily. Focus on whatever tiny good thing you can genuinely appreciate in your life. No matter how awful your life is, there has to be at least one or two tiny good things that you can appreciate to get you started.

Ginny · « **Reply #99 on:** March 24, 2012, 05:07:29 PM »

ps - your ego is wrong - you can have absolutely anything you want. I hope someday soon you can see that and make it happen.

I am becoming more and more convinced that I've experienced at least one miracle, simply by shifting the focus of my attention. There's nothing special about me, anyone could do it. But you need to learn to retrain your mind, and that might take some work.

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #100 on:** March 25, 2012, 03:30:01 AM »

http://www.epubbud.com/read.php?g=V6USVC99&p=1

Michael Losier's book on the Law of Attraction

lise · « **Reply #101 on:** March 25, 2012, 03:41:01 AM »

There have been a series of quotes today on fb by That I think maybe relevant to you.

"When people say "I'm good, yet bad things happen to me", they are not considering some aspects of how they are not being "good", from the perspective of the universe. Generally, if someone is not sending out anger, hatred, rage, and otherwise not willfully causing harm to others, then we label them as "good". "Good", according to the universe is not only about having noble virtues. Good is being whole, complete, where you are not sending any disempowered vibrations - which could many things like sadness, fear, insecurity, unworthiness, powerlessness, grief, despair, guilt etc. Thus, be good, but don't stop there - become empowered, complete, whole."

"Have you noticed that for some people, nothing in the world ever seems right? Wherever they go, whomsoever they meet, they find something wrong in the situation and the people around. It is really hard for these people to be genuinely happy. Their life Is a living hell. To these people, the world is a harsh place where a lot of bad things happen regularly. Nothing good seems to come to these people.

On the other extreme, there are people for whom the world is a wonderful place. Each day brings more and more happiness to them. Their life seems to be working perfectly. It seems that nothing can take away their happiness - whatever the life situation, wherever they are, with whomever they interact, these people are cheerful. Most of the realized spiritual masters fall into this category.

And then, there is the rest of us, who perceive our life being a mixed of positive and negative circumstances. For some time, we are happy when things happen the way we want. And then, when things do not go the way we want, we become unhappy. We attribute our happiness and unhappiness to the situations outside. We silently believe that If only outside situations would change perfectly to match what we want, then we can remain happy forever.

Now, why do different people experience different amounts of happiness and unhappiness?
Each one of us thinks that the world out there is exactly how we perceive it. However what we perceive around us is only our personal reality, which is the truth filtered through our mind that is conditioned by our likes and dislikes. The nature of the mind is such that it perceives only what is like unto itself. It is like each of us are wearing glasses with different amount of darkness in it. The lighter the color of the glass one is wearing, brighter the world appears to be. In the same way, the more positive the mind, the more positive the world appears to that person.

A mind that is usually turned negative cannot but find only faults in in the world outside. A negative mindset naturally perceives only lack in the world. Such a mind finds it hard to appreciate things that most others consider to be good - the mind finds some way to criticize even the best of people and situations. Conversely, a mind that is mostly positive cannot but appreciate what is good in the world outside. Even if situations come up which others perceive as negative, this mind can only see the good in the situation. It is hard for this mind to speak ill of anything, as it only perceives beauty in everything.

This is why two people experiencing the same life event are unlikely to report the situation the same way. A person might go to a restaurant, order a meal, and report back saying that both the service and food was extremely poor. On the other hand, another person who goes and orders the same food, made by the same cook, served by the same waiter, on the same day and time, can find both the food and the service excellent. As much as we take other people’s opinions in order to make our decisions, it is important to realize that people are only relaying the truth as conditioned by the nature of their own mind.

A mind that is stuck in lower energies will find fault even in the actions of great leaders who have selflessly laid down their entire life for the service of humanity. On the other hand, the loving and compassionate minds experiencing higher energies, such as our great spiritual masters, do not hold hatred even against the cruel and brutal actions of hardened criminals and terrorists, whom the rest of the world despises.

So how do you perceive this world to be? Is it a wonderful place where beautiful things happen each day, and more possibilities open up for growth? Or, is it a tragic place with only struggle and negativity? Whatever you perceive, it is only your mind revealing it’s dominant nature to you. Positive thinking and spiritual growth changes the very reality you experience in the world around, as it changes the very nature of your mind. Thus, the story that a person tells about his life and his world defines the storyteller and not the world."

Inspirations by Sudhir Krishnan

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #102 on:** March 25, 2012, 04:22:34 AM »

Lise,

You are AMAZING! I adore you, truly, I do!

That post was so incredible and it is exactly the right thing to post here.

Actually, it would be a perfect post for Crimson's post also.

Thank you so much for that wonderful contribution.

You Rock too.....you and Tins rock the world!!