Author Topic: Can't stop attracting negative and mean people...help!! :( (Read 6679 times)

gogetter · « **Reply #45 on:** March 22, 2012, 01:42:04 AM »

how do i fix things when i am constantly being hurt and put down by the people i love most (after my kids of course)? i am thinking after 10 yrs of this maybe it is time to leave them but i am so scared. i have NO other family because they all hate me. none. if i lose my parents that is it, no one. no one.

JustForToday · « **Reply #46 on:** March 22, 2012, 01:54:58 AM »

you completely got me wrong and the others as well.

if we wouldnt care, would anyone reply??? even take the time to replay and the thoughts behind it?

i know where your coming from, i told you about my post about negative people in my life, i thought there is a course on me!!! can you believe that? and even friends began to wonder why such things happened to me.... so i am not talking about peanuts here, ok? and those things happened nearly 38 years to me, i could write a bestseller.

but somehow, gogetter, we must have attracted that, there is no way around this truth. we had/have. something in us must be learned, thats why we always attract the same!!! god doesnt hate us, there was a time when i really thought that. but its not!! ITS ONLY TO LEARN TO GROW!

i too came out of nothing, really nothing. came here and read, read read..... got reminded of the power of the universe and i said--- ok, NOW i change it, i have had enough of this bs..... NOW ITS TIME. and i did. slowly, but i did.
i dont want negative things and people in my life anymore.

i have to love myself to attract positive things and thats something i am still learning, but way better than i was before. kept hating me, for nothing and attracted hateful things.

love yourself, is all i can say..... forgive yourself, KNOW THAT YOURE LOVED BY GOD.
feel it. ask for help and he will open.

i came so far now, so tell me one reason you couldnt?

i didnt mean to push you away.... i was just trying to distract from this problem, cause one thing i realized, if you keep talking about your problems, you will send out negative vibes. so even when i still have problems, i dont talk about them much. i hold on to the positive things and keep talking about them, no matter how small they are, or seem to be at the moment.

when i came here--- i had A WHOLE BUNCH IN MY LIFE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT, a whole.... but i started to put it at side.... and step by step got on the other side, the positive one.
there might be no solution right now for you, well, it seems like that.
but once you begin to really concentrate on other things (positive), like here in the forum (i got my energies here, cause i had no one to tak to), you will automatically improve your own life!!! that is the key!!! SWITCH YOUR THOUGHTS.

be happy when someone had success on here, be happy when others are happy. no jealousy..... be happy with them as if it happened to you!!! that will change your mindstate.
never meant to say, that posting here has conditions, hell no- you get that wrong.

be active on here for yourself!!! there is much you can take with you..... believe me.
forget your problem for now, turn into the other direction and it will lead you step by step to the place you want to be.

love to you and dont get me wrong, i want to help

Shrikanya · « **Reply #47 on:** March 22, 2012, 01:57:21 AM »

Bingo.. I knew it. Your problem originates from the house. You have all things that you don't need and that energy is slowly eating away your vital force. You have got unnecessary trouble into your life as a result. Please start cleaning it immediately. You don't have to listen to your parents. Who has more lifetime in front of them? You or your parents. For a change, start living for yourself. If you do not know where to begin, start with your bedroom. I can assure you things will get worse than it is(law of inertia) and after you have cleaned your house and everything is in an apple-pie order, one day things will start to improve.

What are you teaching your children? What kind of energy are you giving them? Is your current state going to help them?

Time to look after yourself. Only if you are happy with yourself, others will be happy with you.

Time to show your parents, who is the boss.

Come on, gogetter. Go and get the life you deserve, it is within you and it is crying out for you to get it

And I know you will

JustForToday · « **Reply #48 on:** March 22, 2012, 01:57:24 AM »

Quote from: gogetter on March 22, 2012, 01:42:04 AM

how do i fix things when i am constantly being hurt and put down by the people i love most (after my kids of course)? i am thinking after 10 yrs of this maybe it is time to leave them but i am so scared. i have NO other family because they all hate me. none. if i lose my parents that is it, no one. no one.

do you think everyone has a family? not at all.
i have no family, i had no one, lost even my best friend last year, who was my family!!!
and? i am here, i changed my life. you dont need anyone, just YOU. love you!! the peace you seek is in you, nowhere else.

Shrikanya · « **Reply #49 on:** March 22, 2012, 02:07:42 AM »

If your desire for a better life is stronger than the fact that you are being hurt and being constantly pulled down, then you will succeed. Just for you, a video that I shared with all my friends,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q5nVqeVhgQE&feature=related

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #50 on:** March 22, 2012, 02:15:34 AM »

Everyone here has been trying to help you and we have given you tools to help yourself but you are FULL, OVERLY FULL OF EXCUSES!!

Have you heard the saying....."God helps those who help themselves?"

You have to help yourself and stop with all these excuses.

You are bitter and nasty and have such a bad attitude toward others and you expect them to be rude to you (you say you don't, but you do!!.)

I am NOT being mean to you right now, you may interpret that I am but I am not. I am being HONEST with you.

I care about you but you need to care about yourself and stop blaming others and making excuses. Pick yourself up off the floor and put a smile on your face and please realize YOU are NOT THE ONLY PERSON who is having a hard time in life but it's how you handle those hard times that make you a better person. You handle adversity in a VICTIM mode!

How about you start reading some inspiring books each and every day. I literally carry with me everywhere I go "The Power of Positive Thinking." Each time I am sitting waiting for an appt. or if I have an extra few minutes I pick it up and open it and start reading it. I think I have read the entire book at least 7 times in the past 6 months but it makes me feel so good and it is so inspiring it raises my vibration and I feel wonderful and I feel like shooting random prayers at people I don't even know.

There are several great books out there and I can email a few to you if you would like but just do us all a favor and STOP MAKING EXCUSES AND STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT PEOPLE BEING RUDE AND MEAN TO YOU. The more you focus on that, the more you will attract and frankly I am sick of hearing about it and I am sure I am not the only one.

Start focus on what you DO WANT TO ATTRACT. Make that your new goal!! Start writing about all the good things going on in your life, start trying to help other people. Tell us about all the wonderful blessings you have in your life. Start being positive and focus on being positive. Delete the negative!!

Every time you have a negative thought, delete it.......say to yourself, "delete, delete, delete" and then replace that thought with a positive thought.

This is on you......only you can change your own attitude and outlook on your life. No one can do this work for you and if you are not willing to do the work without complaining and strive to better yourself with NO EXCUSES AND NEGATIVITY then there is nothing anyone here can help you with.

You must help yourself and we can help you from there........FOCUS ON ONLY THE POSITIVE.

You are NOT A VICTIM!!

Be the person you WANT TO BE, BE STRONG, BE POSITIVE, BE THANKFUL, BE KIND, BE LOVING......BE HELPFUL TO OTHERS......BE GREAT, BE WONDERFUL!

BE THE BEST YOU, YOU CAN BE!!

irishgirl69 · « **Reply #51 on:** March 22, 2012, 02:16:52 AM »

It sounds to me like you might be clinically depressed (or something more) - have you ever discussed these feelings with a doctor? If you are clinically depressed, saying mantras and affirmations aren't going to help much because there is a chemical misbalance in your body that can be easily remedied by medicine.

JustForToday · « **Reply #52 on:** March 22, 2012, 02:27:01 AM »

i have to agree with irishgirl, cause i take medicine still, antidepressants.
they might help you to get that first push----- but the rest has to come from you....
the pills dont help you to love yourself....

thats all about. love yourself, give love, be happy with others, be grateful for every small thing and as said already..... where is your will to survive? it must be stronger than your will to suffer.

2 choices

continue like that
or
go out now!!!

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #53 on:** March 22, 2012, 02:32:30 AM »

Maybe she is clinically depressed or more but I want to say this, when I first came to this forum I was so depressed that I was on the verge of suicide, literally!!

This forum was my saving grace. If it hadn't been for finding this forum I would have for sure been back on anti-depression drugs or worse not been here at all.

But the difference is........I WANTED TO HELP MYSELF!! I wanted to find a way out of that dark place I was in. I wanted to live in a clean house again. I wanted to live with clean dishes and real food in my frig again. I wanted to have clean clothes to wear again.

I wanted out and I got out.

So thank you to this forum for saving my life and for helping me to become the person I am today!

You can choose a better life for yourself.

You can choose HAPPINESS!!

JustForToday · « **Reply #54 on:** March 22, 2012, 03:11:06 AM »

great post mariposa,

i also wanted to add that i have been on pills BEFORE i got into this black whole where mariposa is talking about. they didnt prevent me at all.
and they didnt help me out.....

the way mariposa said, thats actually they way out!

edited:
i am not going to post on this anymore....
and i wish you braveness and power gogetter and this comes from my heart!

gogetter · « **Reply #55 on:** March 23, 2012, 01:57:31 AM »

I feel like no one wants to hear any complaints any longer or my "excuses". I don't have anything positive to say yet I just don't know how to get there. I repeat the mantras over and over but nothing changes. I do kind acts and extend love to others and still nothing changes.

today i got up and it is mid afternoon and kids are still in pjs and have spent the day watching tv, i have just sat on net all day or tv, and done nothing. gave some cereal out. no motivation. just don't feel like doing anything. still staring at the piles of laundry and mess everywhere, no clue where to start or how. it is too overwhelming.

my parents are still mad at me and today they say it is all me and I am mean to them and am trying to force them out. great, turn it around on me. either they are insulting me and putting me down or they are all sad and saying it is just me.

i really hope no one is going to come on here and say maybe it is you, look at yourself, etc etc. because it is NOT ME. why why why is there no support on that? how can it be me? all i do is be loving and kind! oh and you will say hmm but you are not being loving and kind on here....but that's because this is a place to come and express myself and try and be HEARD and helped!!!

And i can't get to groups or mental health because i dont have a sitter and i would never ever use some icky daycare especially in this town, no way. and it is not an excuse it is the reality of my situation.

i refuse to take meds anyway i dont believe in meds for mental health, i believe in happiness and kindness and love. i dont believe in chemical imbalances at all. i think all of the problems i have and anyone has are situational. i am stuck in some shitty circumstances and have no escape right now. i was hoping this place would be more understanding and more caring.

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #56 on:** March 23, 2012, 02:47:16 AM »

Ok.....done. Deaf ears here!

If you are unwilling to see that YOU CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY WITH YOUR THOUGHTS then there is really nothing anyone here can do for you.

It MUST start with you and you must be willing to help yourself and you OBVIOUSLY are not.

No one is being mean or unsupportive toward you here, we are all trying to help you and here you are once again making excuses and complaining and giving more sob story.

ONLY ONE PERSON CAN TRULY HELP YOU.........YOU!!

Get off the couch and go for a walk, start caring about you and stop dwelling in all this negativity and if you can't do that then you certainly DO NEED to see a doctor and consider re-evaluating your beliefs on medications because something is obviously not right here if you are unwilling to look at yourself and accept the reality of your situation ........WHICH YOU CREATED by your choices and attitude and thoughts.

I have offered you free books but did you ask to receive them? No!

You just want someone here to say something to you to magically take this all away and make your life better, well guess what? Life doesn't work that way!! So deal with it!!

I am so over this and you looking for a pity party when people here are giving you solid advice and helpful ideas on how to help yourself and instead of doing anything for yourself you again blame others, make excuses and give more complaints and sob stories.

Only you can help you and if you are not willing to make the first move or any move for that matter then what do you expect us to do for you?

There is NO MAGIC BULLET here for you............

You are the ONLY PERSON WHO CAN CHANGE YOUR SITUATION!!

PS.....this is a Law of Attraction forum, meaning like attracts like, the energy you put out is the energy you will receive....it's the law. There is no blaming our problems on other people because the Law doesn't work that way. If something isn't the way we want it in our lives we recognize that and we look for how we contributed to it and we fix it. We don't put blame on someone else and make excuses because the law doesn't work that way. If you don't believe in the Law of Attraction, which it seems by your posts that you don't, then what are you doing here? The basic law is that whatever is happening in your life, it is all on you, you created it with your thoughts and feelings and beliefs......PERIOD!! If you don't like it, only YOU CAN CHANGE IT. It's the law!

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #57 on:** March 23, 2012, 02:55:41 AM »

Oh and FYI, you have a live in support system claiming to help you with your children. There is no reason why you could not leave them with your parents for one hour during one day a week to go see a therapist and if you are unwilling to do that then check around because some therapist have a place for children to wait at their offices while their parents are in session. Enough with your lame excuses......get off your behind and start to help yourself because if you don't do it for you......no one will.

gogetter · « **Reply #58 on:** March 23, 2012, 03:31:06 AM »

wow mariposa you are one mean person. thanks alot for making me cry, like you just made my day ten times worse. i think tough love is cruel and you just kicked me while i was down so i hope you are proud of yourself.
i had friends stop being my friends because they used your words and said they could no longer listen to my "pity party" but you know, i would never ever say that kind of thing to someone who was down. never. i would never tell them to suck it up or get all harsh because i care too much and am far too nice.
and being nice is why i am stuck caring for my mean parents because i have too much heart to dump them in a home.
and NO they could NOT look after my kids, they are frail and in their 80s and it is not safe for kids or my parents.
but you will call it an excuse.
i dont really see how you attract much goodness to yourself when you give out so much cruelty to me.

i DO SEE that i create my own reality with my thoughts i GET THAT but i also do not know how to change it.

I DID GO FOR A WALK yesterday and many days before that and like i said many times already, i can get myself feeling better and happier and more positive and then guess what? I get called stupid or criticized or put down by my parents!!! and then i sink again!

I have tONS of books, wyer, deepak, the secret, tolle...i read LOTS and sure when i am reading, i do feel better and i get uplifted but it does not last because of my circumstances!!!!! have you not even read my posts???

i came here to be helped and you should not even post because all you did was hurt me.

You are MEAN MEAN MEAN. your attitude and treatment of me is exactly what all the mean people here shove at me, when they tell me just bcause you are single mother with no transportation doesnt give you any exception over anyone else or whatever, no one can give me a break at all!

SOBBING MY HEART OUT NOW AND GOING TO TAKE SOME OXY THANKS ALOT!!!!

but you will just label me as having a sob story and show no compassion for me or no understanding of me at all.

i dont know what else to do, maybe there is no hope for me. nothing
none
no

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #59 on:** March 23, 2012, 03:56:25 AM »

I am not being mean to you but you take it personally and so you interpret it as mean.

I am being honest with you and forthcoming and I have attempted to help you and offer you helpful suggestions and solutions and instead of looking within yourself now you are blaming me!!

That takes the cake!

I have tried to help you, offered you resources, books and suggestions and you continually come back with more excuses and now this with the oxy.

Ok so here we are, you obviously have low self esteem so I apologize if I hurt you and tread on your feelings but I am telling you truthfully what the situation is and how to help yourself and it really is on you.

We have told you to try PSTEK to eliminate your emotional blocks (or I think we did) if not try that, it's free and it works. I have told you about THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING and I can send you a copy if you would only read it. I also have ASK AND IT IS GIVEN, by Abe Hicks, another good source and you are welcome to it but you have to actually read it.

See the way I see it right now, we are here giving you helpful solutions to your problem and you are basically spitting in our faces with excuses and pity parties for yourself instead of actually trying anything we suggest.

Explain to me why anyone on this forum should continue to attempt to help you if you are unwilling to help yourself?

You see, even though you like to think of yourself as this kind, loving person, you are not showing us that side of you. Being kind and loving isn't complaining about your parents, or how other people are rude to you and mean to you, there is nothing kind or loving about that....NOTHING. So you need to understand that right now, you are receiving the energy you put out. It isn't personal, I don't mean to hurt you and if you feel hurt that is because you are choosing to feel that way. I am NOT BEING MEAN TO YOU. You are choosing to feel that I am but I am not. I am being honest, forthcoming and trying to help you.

Now seriously, you need to choose to help yourself and stop blaming me or anyone else.

I did not make you this way, I don't even really know you other than what you have written but do you honestly think I would waste my precious time trying to help you if I didn't care about you? What reason would I have for that?

Stop with the drugs......it's really pathetic and it's wrong and if you don't believe in taking meds for mental issues than why are you taking oxy to help yourself get high and feel better? That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

Pull yourself together woman! Take me up on my offer for the books and immerse yourself in some great reading and help yourself.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKdHJyHB-Bo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z951-qBpemU