Author Topic: Attachment, obsession, and letting go (Read 1735 times)

goodvibrations09 · « **on:** June 26, 2012, 05:08:27 AM »

One of the biggest difficulties I've run into while working with the LoA to deliberately create, is the seemingly contradictory instructions. My favorite book "Think and Grow Rich" talks about having a "burning desire", almost to the point of obsession. Along this vein others talk about intensity and frequency of your vibration being the most important thing to getting what you want... in the words of Earl Nightingale "you get what you think about most of the time." In other words, you have to frequently think about having (right now) what you want.

Contrast this with other books and advice that talk about simply setting your intention, then letting go and letting the universe take care of it.

I do not think these two methods of manifestation can co-exist.

So what is the correct method? Here is what I have come to think:

- In order to manifest (particularly larger manifestations), we must have a strong desire for whatever it is we are trying to manifest
- Because we have this strong desire, it will be nearly impossible to not think about it frequently (otherwise it wouldn't be a burning desire), and this is a good thing
- Our thoughts about what we are desiring must be positive... and even more importantly, we must feel good (or great, or better than great) while thinking about them
- You must truly believe that you already have it, it just hasn't shown up yet. It's more than a positive expectation, it's a knowing anticipation (along the lines of the days leading up to your wedding... marriage is imminent, you basically are married, following the vows your life will be very similar to before, BUT you aren't technically married yet)
- If you can't bring yourself to really believe it, you may need to start manifesting smaller things, otherwise any road bump can lead to an overwhelming siege of fear, doubt, worry and frustration, moving you away from your goal... not towards it.

As for the letting go part...... I don't think it is exactly what we want to do. I do think we need to let go of the fears, doubts and other negative feelings we have surrounding manifesting our desire. We need to feel good no matter what, and if we are needy and desperate for something, our current position of not physically having it makes us feel bad. We attract based on vibration, not necessarily on 100% matching thoughts, so feeling bad can cause poor health, accidents, or other "bad luck", not to mention keep us from obtaining our desire.

I think that almost everyone here has a burning desire for something (on this forum, seemingly mostly for a specific person), and as I mentioned, this is a not a bad thing. Yet I think that most of us still deep down hold negative feelings regarding a break up, or the way we've been treated, and that leaks into our vibrational transmission, and keeps our lover (or job, or money or whatever else you desire) away from us.

I believe the success stories we read on here about those that have given up or let go and only then, finally manifest what they were so desperately trying for (and Yoda correctly states "there is no try"), is the result of their burning desire (aka their wish to the universe) finally being allowed to flow into their lives without resistance caused by negative emotion being there to block it.

So, to me, letting go is actually about REALLY BELIEVING, having faith and feeling good when thinking about what you want, thus adding power. It's not stopping thinking about it. If you cannot bring yourself to total belief and faith, you are likely pushing your desire away, and should maybe stop with trying to manifest that desire until you have become better at the process of it.... but make no mistake, IT IS POSSIBLE!!!!

I would love to hear the other forum members opinion on this, because I think it is finally starting to make sense to me

Mr Brightside · « **Reply #1 on:** June 26, 2012, 05:19:36 AM »

You hit the nail on the head, really nothing I can add or change to what you said. I think its hard to say if you need to just keep positive or stop thinking about it all together. On one level if you are constantly thinking about something you are worried about it, and no matter how hard you try you will have a day or two where you realize its not actually here yet. That’s why so many people, including myself, have better success once we stop putting energy into something , good or bad.

I also think detachment comes naturally over time to each person. You cant really force it, but eventually everyone will relax and stop obsessing over things they desire. It might take days or months, depending on what it is you want.. but you will.

Marianna9351 · « **Reply #2 on:** June 26, 2012, 05:31:25 AM »

'So, to me, letting go is actually about REALLY BELIEVING, having faith and feeling good when thinking about what you want, thus adding power. It's not stopping thinking about it. If you cannot bring yourself to total belief and faith, you are likely pushing your desire away, and should maybe stop with that desire until you have become better at the process of it.... but make no mistake, IT IS POSSIBLE!!!!'

AMEN...This is exactly how I would interpret letting go. Your ROTM. I cannot manifest unless I have faith and feel dang good when I think of my desire. I even have manifested when I was obsessed.

...However letting go is different 4 everyone. There is no wrong or right way, it is tailored to what an individual feels works best 4 them....

xxx

FindDivineTogether · « **Reply #3 on:** June 26, 2012, 06:18:30 AM »

Quote from: goodvibrations09 on June 26, 2012, 05:08:27 AM

One of the biggest difficulties I've run into while working with the LoA to deliberately create, is the seemingly contradictory instructions. My favorite book "Think and Grow Rich" talks about having a "burning desire", almost to the point of obsession. Along this vein others talk about intensity and frequency of your vibration being the most important thing to getting what you want... in the words of Earl Nightingale "you get what you think about most of the time." In other words, you have to frequently think about having (right now) what you want.

Contrast this with other books and advice that talk about simply setting your intention, then letting go and letting the universe take care of it.

I do not think these two methods of manifestation can co-exist.

So what is the correct method? Here is what I have come to think:

- In order to manifest (particularly larger manifestations), we must have a strong desire for whatever it is we are trying to manifest
- Because we have this strong desire, it will be nearly impossible to not think about it frequently (otherwise it wouldn't be a burning desire), and this is a good thing
- Our thoughts about what we are desiring must be positive... and even more importantly, we must feel good (or great, or better than great) while thinking about them
- You must truly believe that you already have it, it just hasn't shown up yet. It's more than a positive expectation, it's a knowing anticipation (along the lines of the days leading up to your wedding... marriage is imminent, you basically are married, following the vows your life will be very similar to before, BUT you aren't technically married yet)
- If you can't bring yourself to really believe it, you may need to start manifesting smaller things, otherwise any road bump can lead to an overwhelming siege of fear, doubt, worry and frustration, moving you away from your goal... not towards it.

As for the letting go part...... I don't think it is exactly what we want to do. I do think we need to let go of the fears, doubts and other negative feelings we have surrounding manifesting our desire. We need to feel good no matter what, and if we are needy and desperate for something, our current position of not physically having it makes us feel bad. We attract based on vibration, not necessarily on 100% matching thoughts, so feeling bad can cause poor health, accidents, or other "bad luck", not to mention keep us from obtaining our desire.

I think that almost everyone here has a burning desire for something (on this forum, seemingly mostly for a specific person), and as I mentioned, this is a not a bad thing. Yet I think that most of us still deep down hold negative feelings regarding a break up, or the way we've been treated, and that leaks into our vibrational transmission, and keeps our lover (or job, or money or whatever else you desire) away from us.

I believe the success stories we read on here about those that have given up or let go and only then, finally manifest what they were so desperately trying for (and Yoda correctly states "there is no try"), is the result of their burning desire (aka their wish to the universe) finally being allowed to flow into their lives without resistance caused by negative emotion being there to block it.

So, to me, letting go is actually about REALLY BELIEVING, having faith and feeling good when thinking about what you want, thus adding power. It's not stopping thinking about it. If you cannot bring yourself to total belief and faith, you are likely pushing your desire away, and should maybe stop with trying to manifest that desire until you have become better at the process of it.... but make no mistake, IT IS POSSIBLE!!!!

I would love to hear the other forum members opinion on this, because I think it is finally starting to make sense to me

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!!!

You just reminded me of what i need to remember and what i need to do..with all the stuff going on i my Life, all the MAJOR changes i forgot that i need to actually LIVE LIFE and that my Intentions are already out there for God/Universe..its already set and now i just need to find joy --not sadness or despair-- in the things i desire, the things I KNOW are coming my way

God Bless!

goodvibrations09 · « **Reply #4 on:** June 26, 2012, 01:37:10 PM »

@Stefzilla: I agree with most of what you said, and have no doubt had a lot of thoughts in my life that are frequent because they are fear and worry based. But I have also had a lot of thoughts in my life that are frequent and cause excitement. For instance, when I was a kid and our family trip to Disneyland drew nearer, I was so excited, and couldn't stop thinking about it. I think it's possible to have that feeling towards our desires, and if we do, my guess is that would be the fastest way to manifest (however, to date, I have not been able to master this). Totally letting it go seems to be very effective for a lot of people. But it is hard for me to fathom, that in an energetic universe where like attracts like, sending out a great positive vibration all the time would not be more effective than one time, and letting it go. But I don't know.

Also, maybe this is semantics and words can't convey meaning properly, but I really don't like the word detach. I feel like it robs us of excitement, it seems like apathy to me. I 100% agree that anything you feel you can't live without, you will likely end up proving yourself wrong, because it won't come to you if you are that fearful of not having it. But I feel like really desiring something, by definition means that you have some attachment to it. So is "detachment" actually just the knowledge that your life will be great whether you have it or not, even though you still really want it? Is it just the absence of fear, doubt and worry regarding it? Because I don't think you can really want something, and not care whether you get it.

@Marianna & FindDivineTogether: I'm glad you liked the post. I have this deep knowing that there is a way to manifest really quickly, and huge things, and I think it comes from deep belief, to the point of knowing. But as I learn more about LoA, the more I learn about my ignorance of it. It is (like everything else) an acquired skill, and I sometimes try to create these huge things really quickly that I don't have full belief in, then get frustrated when it doesn't come.

Also FindDivine, I think you are right, changes are essential to bringing greater things to us, so embrace and enjoy them. They are paving the road for better things to come.

Now, if anyone could tell me how to cultivate belief, and eliminate fears, doubts and worries from my life so that I have everything I could ever want, I would really appreciate it.

Mr Brightside · « **Reply #5 on:** June 26, 2012, 06:58:59 PM »

the knowledge that your life will be great whether you have it or not, even though you still really want it

Thats what detachment is, being happy even without it. Which also takes care of the fear, doubt and worry.. since you are already happy with what you have none of these things would even come up.

Autumn · « **Reply #6 on:** June 26, 2012, 07:23:02 PM »

I so agree with that! Detachment sometimes doesn't really feel like the right word, it's way too close to apathy and giving up (though I know it's used in a different sense). Personally, I like this idea better, of getting excited about what you're attracting and giving thanks and getting all hyper about the progress you've made till date. Just thinking about excitement can make you excited

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I'd stuck a little post-it on the back of my door with all the techniques & resources I have at my disposal to make me feel good and also essential steps in attaining your desire - EFT, scripting, RS, visualisation, meditation, binaural beats, belief, gratitude (with a rock if you will). This way I can pick one that suits my mood that particular day when I feel like doing something. It felt so good to strike out ~~detachment~~ and write excitement instead. It's so positive & forceful. It's rare to get all excited about something and simultaneously harbor negative feelings or thoughts about it. I think I'm adopting this

I do think it's possible to really really want something and at the same time be open to new, better things coming your way - whether it's a job, a person, money, opportunities, lifestyle changes. It's not really contradictory because at the point when that something turns up, you will want that. Your ideas and thinking will have matured and slowly morphed to the state of being excited and accepting of what's arriving in your life. Being attached and desirous of a particular thing doesn't mean that you're blocking it. It simply means you know that you'll be in the perfect emotional state to receive a new thing if it comes your way but right now, expecting, being enthusiastic and knowing you will have this particular thing is what makes you happy & keeps your vibration up (which is anyway the most important part, and will bring you good things). I do think it's just the knowledge that your life will be great no matter what, that the things that make you happiest are ultimately the ones that will end up being a part of it. I don't know if I adequately expressed what I thought to me was a revelation!

Kirstenc1984 · « **Reply #7 on:** December 28, 2012, 08:18:16 PM »

I know this is an old subject but youv'e just boosted my spirit i started having negative thoughts thathe wouldn't be back he doesn't love me and why is he ignoring me he hates me. Then i saw some posts thatsaid to move on if he doesn't love you you can't change that i ended up heart broken again but now coming to this post i can now think positive think about him again in a good way and be excited he's mine and he's going to come back.

Thank you so much very soon i'll be typing a post thati got him back.

ndn82 · « **Reply #8 on:** December 28, 2012, 11:56:51 PM »

Thanks for bumping this thread Kirstenc1984, I needed this too!

Likana · « **Reply #9 on:** January 27, 2013, 07:13:42 PM »

great topic. thanks for it

Marianna9351 · « **Reply #10 on:** January 28, 2013, 01:15:53 AM »

I guess a better definition would be being happy now, not when it manifests into your reality...........

pauloliver · « **Reply #11 on:** January 28, 2013, 02:09:37 AM »

yeah i believe detachment is accepting what you want to manifest as already in your possession and not having to think about it anymore, for it already is. It's like your car that you have now in reality... you have it, you're probably not thinking about your car all day because it is already in your possession. SO when you are visualizing what you want to manifest, after vividly imagining and believing that you have what you want, accept it that you already have it and move on with the rest of your day as if you have it and there is no reason to think about it anymore (until your next visualization session) because your mind already "knows" that you have it. let the universe do its work, and just enjoy the ride!