10 things you cant do with the law of attraction

[Love is here]

http://www.todayisthatday.com/10-things-you-cant-do-with-the-law-of-attraction/

Does anyone agree with this article? I dont agree with everything but I do agree with most of it specifically you cant make people do things and you cant make people love you. I want to believe you can attract a specific person. I dont have any desire to be with an ex but certainly ive had crushes that even today would not mind a shot with but Im hesitant to put effort into that because I just dont see how loa can work on someone else's will when its suppose to be about you not someone else.

If the person your trying to attract has totally different desires, how would your own will override what they are wanting to attract (whether they are attracting subconsciously or consciously since the law works either way)? I have attracted crossing paths with a crush. I said Universe/God please let me see him today and immediately upon walking outside, he was walking towards me but attracting contact is the most I could do since I have no power over his feelings. He either likes me or he doesnt. My understanding on how it works is you have to be a vibrational match to what you want and how can you change someone else's vibration? Also if your trying to be a match to someone specific instead of being at a higher vibration for you (and as a result attracting similar energies from whomever they come from), doesnt it become about something outside of you? You know what I mean? Im not trying to discourage anyone here. Im just truly trying to understand how can you attract a specific person if they have desires that may not include you?

 When I hear stories of couples getting back together with one person using the loa to attract them back, I believe the other person probably still wanted them all along or at least still an attachment there from both people not just one. It takes two to tango. Its not a topic I think about normally but cant help it when I come here since so many are wanting to attract someone specific or an ex so it always makes me wonder. I definitely think someone can attract a meeting or contact with an ex, cross paths which hopefully gives them a chance for reconcilliation if both parties want that but when I hear people affirming so and so loves me and what not, how can their intentions be stronger than what someone else wants for themselves or feels deep inside?

I mean we all know members of the opposite sex whom we'd never be with no matter what they tried to do to attract us. I try to put myself in the other position to see if it would really work. If any of my ex's tried to use the loa to attract me back, theres absolutely no way it would work. May work to cross paths again or contact but a reconcilliation, no way because what i want for myself doesnt include them and im very strong on that. Ive heard more stories of people attracting someone else while trying to attract their ex's back then ones who actually attracted their ex's back. Again not wanting to discourage, that wasnt the intention for this post and like I said I absolutely do think you can attract contact and as a result chances for reconcilliation but to attract them to feel a certain way and change their will for what they want?

[Dr Scully]

Hmm interesting I was wondering this too.  The way I understand it is that feelings and vibrations change.  We are all connected to people we meet, right?  So when people break up it is a result of some sort of energy or vibrational change that isn't syncing up anymore between the two people.  So if you are truly connected to this person through energy - and you put that intention out to sync up your energies again, I think it can work since it's on a subconscious level. 

So can you attract an ex back?  Yes, since you can change your vibrations.  Maybe you don't want your exes back because they haven't done anything to change their vibrations to make you attracted to them again?  "He either likes me or doesn't" - I think is too black and white.  Feelings change constantly throughout time towards various people.  Maybe he won't like you one moment, but at another moment you will be sending out a different 'vibe' and he will find himself suddenly attracted to you.  I have an ex from almost 10 years ago who didn't want to date me back then but now he's banging down my door.  I don't want him back because he's still the same arrogant, insecure, cocky person I met and that completely turns me off.  He hasn't changed his energy.  He's always negative about things just like when I first met him.

I believe if you feel someone is a soulmate and they haven't come to you (either an ex or a new person), then you aren't an energy/vibrational match yet.  So maybe your ex or this new person just needs time to realize that your vibrations are in sync and that you are a soulmate too (even though you knew it all along).  Maybe you haven't attracted them yet because you aren't a match to them and you need to change your energy.

I read on here before you can't "use LOA" just to attract back an ex, because then you are acting out of desperation because you want it so bad and are just using it to "gain something" that you feel you need to be happy.  The intention is not truly a positive one, so you don't get it.  You can use LOA though to change your vibrations, which can end up putting them in line with an ex again.  Their subconscious will be attracted to yours, so automatically their conscious mind will follow.

[truelove]

Thanks for this article eightieschick!
And you have written almost word for word about how I feel as well about attracting a specific person.

People are not pieces on a chess board, as the article states, that we can move around according to our own will and desires. We all have our own desires and wants.. And just because I might absolutely desire the guy who works behind the bar down at the local, for example, doesn't mean I really have unlimited power over having him. I may influence the situation and create opportunities to meet, but if he is on a different wavelength to me or in love with someone else my chances are pretty slim. I also agree with your thinking in regard to the shoe being on the other foot. I've had several guys through the years who have really, really wanted a relationship with me but I have found them very unappealing... so just because they want me doesn't mean they can have me, no matter how hard they try. Or what LoA processes they use. All of this can lead to so much frustration and ultimately sadness, when people aren't 'getting what they want'.

This has really come up a lot for me reading this forum, to the point were I cannot read posts about getting exes back anymore, there is too much pain in them..

I'm with you, I don't want to be a wet blanket and it is every bodies right to give it a shot, because you never know, it may just be your love is THE ONE and it's worth giving it a try, but I want to say LOVE YOURSELVES AND BE HAPPY FIRST GUYS!!! And the wonderful love of your lives will follow!! And I'm sure it will be better than you ever dreamed.
xxx

[Love is here]

This has really come up a lot for me reading this forum, to the point were I cannot read posts about getting exes back anymore, there is too much pain in them..

Yeah there is alot of pain in them. Not judging cause trust me ive been there in the past with regards to wanting an ex back so I get it but I read these posts and theres no way people are detached to the outcome because there is so much energy tied to what the ex does or doesnt do. I think maybe after a breakup just putting your intention out there that you would like another chance with this person and believing that eventually at least your paths will cross again and you will get the chance and then letting it go and going on with your life is fine but day by day trying to attract a message on facebook or a text, theres just no way you can live like that and be detached when your waiting for texts and every little thing day by day because then your life is attached to what they do. I sometimes suspect some people get into the LOA specifically to attract an ex back and that just screams of need so going by what ive read about the law, I see several reasons why there arent alot of success stories for getting the ex back even when you set aside that the other person may not want them back.

[Love is here]

 
So can you attract an ex back?  Yes, since you can change your vibrations.  Maybe you don't want your exes back because they haven't done anything to change their vibrations to make you attracted to them again?  "He either likes me or doesn't" - I think is too black and white.  Feelings change constantly throughout time towards various people.  Maybe he won't like you one moment, but at another moment you will be sending out a different 'vibe' and he will find himself suddenly attracted to you.  I have an ex from almost 10 years ago who didn't want to date me back then but now he's banging down my door.  I don't want him back because he's still the same arrogant, insecure, cocky person I met and that completely turns me off.  He hasn't changed his energy.  He's always negative about things just like when I first met him.

I agree feelings can change between people and if someone changes their energy it can have an effect and feelings can pop back up again but for my ex's the most that could come of it is a casual friendship even if their vibration changed more to my level cause im just not interested. My taste even just in physical appearance has changed so most of the guys ive dated wouldnt get a second look from me if I was seeing them now and im so into what I envision for myself that they cant break that no matter what even the guy who I thought was my soulmate. I would feel like im moving backwards because they had their chance and yes I had mine and even if we both have changed for the better, its important for me to move forward with a clean slate and there are alot of people like me that cant be influenced so thats why Ive doubted the attracting an ex or specific person back. It is worth a shot certainly if you really love that person but I do think alot of time can be wasted over something that is dead and as I always say life isnt long enough spending sometimes years (and in many cases especially in regards to young women, your youth and your prime years) on an emotional rollercoaster for one person when theres a huge world out there full of other people you can be with but I absolutely understand how it feels to be so attached to someone that you cant imagine loving someone else as much and you just dont care to, ive been there so I understand.

[irishgirl69]

In terms of attracting a specific person, I think it can work in some ways.  Let's take truelove's example of having a crush on a bartender at a bar you frequent.  They don't seem to really notice you as more than a customer but you have a crush.  I think you can possibly apply LOA to attract them by just raising your vibration, believing you can have him, etc.  That gives out an air of confidence and IF you are someone he finds attractive, if he is in the same place emotionally as you, etc., then I think it could work.  Really it's just like attracting like.  BUT, if he is in love with someone else, you are not his type physically, etc., then I don't think it will work.  But everything you are doing WILL attract someone else who is a good match for you.

Personally, I've never been interested in trying to make someone feel something for me they don't.  In my situation, I know that there is a connection because I felt it.  And I'm very good at knowing when someone is into me and when they aren't.  So, I'm just building on that.  But in the process, I have always been and continue to be open to the possibility of someone else who would be just as good a match for me.  On the flip side, there is another guy I know who I have become better friends with that I had a crush on when I met.  I was unconsciously applying LOA but he was never interested in me, so it didn't work.  And once I saw that he wasn't interested, I stopped trying or caring because I have no interest in trying to force him to feel something for me that he obviously doesn't.  Now if his feelings changed and he started to flirt with me, etc., perhaps my crush would come back but now I just see him as a friend.

[truelove]

Yes, exactly Irishgirl.

I agree I would never want to try and attract someone who I didn't feel had feelings for me... on that we have to trust our intuition. I know yours is very well tuned so that's really helpful for you!!
I have well tuned intuition too, but not in this particular area- in relation to myself... but anyhow now I am giving it all up it doesn't matter... I am allowing myself to be ridiculously happy single. 

Anyhow, this is a video I found a while back and I think it is very helpful for the process of allowing the right person to come... for those trying to attract a particular person it is worth a listen.

Abraham Hicks How to let go someone you love

[irishgirl69]

truelove, my intuition hasn't always been good in this area as well.  But as I've come to trust it more, it's gotten better.  When I was younger, though, it was totally different.  I once had a guy give me his business card and I honestly thought he was just offering to help fix my car until my friend told me that he was actually just giving me his number.  LOL  And it went both ways.  There were guys that I swore were crazy about me that very much were not.

[tereza]

My main problem with the article is that it's a hot mess. The title is clearly designed for SEO reasons and to attract readers, while the article itself is all over the place. Perhaps it would've been better had they written something like…10 questionable uses of the LoA or 2 things you really can't manifest. But I guess that isn't as catchy. Also, quoting James Arthur Ray? Yeah, I'd take all of that stuff with a huge grain of a salt.

As for the manipulating people like chess pieces thing, I don't like the idea of it. But I don't think it's entirely impossible. I mean, look at pick up artists and advertising. Clearly people are susceptible to that sort of stuff or it wouldn't continue to exist. Also, yeah I've had guys that I would never date for various reasons, but there were a few persistent ones that almost had me reconsider. I don't know that if you fixated on one random person hard enough, that you'd get them to fall madly in love with you. But if there's something there that connects you to that person, it's very possible.

[LadyUniverse]

great thread and discussions here.

i entirely believe there is no limits to LOA. scientists are even working on immortality - why not?

things that were impossible a century ago now became a piece of cake. again why not?

the problem i see is people want to win the lottery but never bother to buy the ticket.

people want to become a love magnet but don't bother to become 'likeable' themselves.

they want the dream job but don't even know what it is about.

[Love is here]

As for the manipulating people like chess pieces thing, I don't like the idea of it. But I don't think it's entirely impossible. I mean, look at pick up artists and advertising. Clearly people are susceptible to that sort of stuff or it wouldn't continue to exist. Also, yeah I've had guys that I would never date for various reasons, but there were a few persistent ones that almost had me reconsider. I don't know that if you fixated on one random person hard enough, that you'd get them to fall madly in love with you. But if there's something there that connects you to that person, it's very possible.

Your right you definitely can manipulate people into having feelings for you but using the LOA specifically, I just dont think that avenue works to attracting someone specific like you said being fixated on a random person and then that person will fall madly in love cause like truelove has said, the guy could have a girlfriend he was in love with, wife what have you but I do think the LOA can help on attracting someone specific if there is some sort of connection thats mutual but it still will be up to that person if they pursue it. I dont think the LOA will force someone else to be with me to where they dont have their own will in the matter. What they want for themselves is gonna be stronger than what I want for them.

[LifeIsGoodToday]

I disagree about attracting a specific person. I think you can have anything, including a specific person if you approach it correctly. There are many articles here on free will. I too was skeptical at first, but after reading them and then seeing results and seeing success stories, I changed my mind. Yes each person has free will. But you can use the LoA to attract someone to "freely" use their will to come to you if done correctly. I agree you can't be attached and obsessed over it. There are many success stories here and over the internet and in real life stories of the LoA at work in reuniting or bringing a specific person into someones life. The main reason people don't get that person is the same things that keep any other desire from manifesting. Doubt, fear, and impatience - not letting go truly. People get tired of waiting or never let go of that attachment. It isn't really a "waiting" game. It's an evolution, a process. Just my two cents.

[lashark]

I didnt read the article. But I know that there nothing you cannot be or do or have. The Law of Attraction isnt something you use or "do" or switch on and off whenever you feel like. It is just a concept that states "that which is like, into itself is drawn". To some people it is more than just a concept though, it is a law. People have the tendancy of applying humanistic qualities to it or making justifications for what they think are their failures... But I guess thats just what happens when people are confused or scared.

You can be, do or have anything. You dont have to "behave" or "deserve" it or "meant" to have it. Just be a vibrational match to it. And that includes the way ANYONE acts towards you.

[LifeIsGoodToday]

I didn't mean you just use it when you want by my post btw. I meant use, as in use it to your advantage or disadvantage. It is always working regardless.

[lashark]

For the record I didnt think you implied that either : ) I was just talking in general based on a common impression and multiple posts Ive seen over time.