Any events that occur, things that people say or do are all perceived differently by us. If we can change our perceptions of these events, especially if they are unfavorable, we can change our outlook on life, and e volve to new higher levels.
How many times have you said something you thought was funny, and the other person took it as an insult. It’s their perception of the situation – they didn’t see it as funny and you are left feeling bad, sometimes it can be the end of a friendship. However, we can change the way we perceive events and things will begin to change when you see things from a different angle.
Give others the benefit of the doubt
I have learnt how to see things differently and give others the benefit of the doubt, before condemning their behaviour. For example, say a friend was running late or was supposed to call you, and they failed to do so. The first reaction you may have is one of anger. You may think, how rude, or don’t they value our friendship – I wouldn’t do that to them. Or you could perceive it differently. You could think, maybe their phone battery went flat, perhaps they were held up in traffic, or a situation occurred to make them lose track of time. I have found that there is usually a very good reason and it’s not always as sinister as you might first think.
I learnt this lesson in a very painful way, however it was really a blessing in disguise, because the person involved did me a huge favour and was instrumental in teaching me a valuable life lesson – we are no longer friends because of it, and that’s ok. Some people only come into our lives to teach us things, once the lesson is learnt, they seem to disappear, ever notice that! I have often been thankful to this person, for teaching me this lesson.
What’s good about the situation?
The trick is to try and see the good in the situation. This can work in the worst cases of all. Kurek Ashley tell’s us in his book “How would Love Respond” how he was able to change his perception of a helicopter crash, in which 5 of his good fiends were killed. Once he changed his perception from that of tragedy to see what was good about the crash, by asking himself “What’s good about this situation” he underwent a massive transformation and turned his life around.
Onwards and Upwards